We All Have A Story Of Ups, Downs, and Heartbreak – This is Life.
Looking back, I reflected upon the time in my life when I knew I needed to refocus on my career. This quote about Weakness of Attention or Poverty of Imagination, reminded me of how unfocused long term I truly was:
“Man is only limited by weakness of attention and poverty of imagination. The great secret is a controlled and well sustained attention, firmly and repeatedly focused on the objectives to be accomplished.”
According to this quote, these are the two things that can stop us from reaching total fulfillment.
Oh, I was very focused, day-to-day and short term, but I certainly didn’t have the belief that anything was possible after all I and my family had endured. So, I really can’t beat myself up about it. But a transformation was certainly in order!
But, that’s not what I want to share with you at this time. Just think, that could be the subject of a book. Hey, maybe I’ll write about it one day! 🙂
I first seriously thought about restarting my career after my children were all in high school. Up to that point, they were always my main focus. Their Father had died when they were just children so my focus was on them and their future.
As high school students, they were rarely home because of friends, after-school activities and employment. My days of cooking, housekeeping, gardening and mothering were not very fulfilling. Not that I didn’t want to serve my family, not at all! I just needed more. A computer would be really helpful for the children’s school reports and searching for new career opportunities for me.
Can you remember the first time you went “online?” I bought a new Gateway 2000 PC in March 1996. When those big black and white boxes arrived, I was practically jumping up and down with excitement! My children were around me, trying to get me to hurry up!
We carefully opened up the boxes, I assembled the PC, keyboard and speakers. I was feeling overwhelmed a bit too. Could I put it together? What if I broke it? What could it actually do to enhance our lives? Our imagination ran wild!
Believe it or not, I can remember my first service provider. It was ACCN (Allegan County Community Network) out of Allegan, Michigan. My first password was “gqu1ibjj!”
Today, at my age, I walk into a room and can’t remember what I went in there for, but I can remember my first logon password!
The CEO of Gateway, Ted Waitt, who was originally from South Dakota, explained that he introduced the Holstein cow as part of Gateway’s consumer branding, blending high tech with homespun American Entrepreneurship.
Well, people went crazy for all things Gateway! I purchased “Mootlida” the plush cow (Gateway’s mascot), the Gateway black and white cup and the pen too! Their marketing sure worked on me!
Learning, Stumbling And Creating A Life.
Being young with a young family, I eventually remarried. Shortly after, I once again had the urge to be intellectually stimulated and contribute something to the world. So I started thinking about what to do next. At the time, I was a substitute school bus driver.
Then, something happened that would change my life forever. My husband and I saw an infomercial on TV that intrigued us. I turned to my husband, Rich, and said, “There’s gotta be a better way to earn a living and be home more.”
The next thing I knew, I was flying out to Anaheim, California for a 5-day intensive training on the “paper” industry. It was 1997.
By July, 1998, I had some success at selling “paper,” including real estate notes. This led to becoming a real estate investor. With an eager mind, I quickly learned various legal “creative financing” strategies.
One of the highlights at this time was that I was invited to Orlando, Florida to be in a production called, “America’s Best of the Best.” One of my creative financing strategies had paid off. 🙂
If you would have asked me the year before if I could have imagined myself on this list of people that were invited, I would definitely have said, “No!”
I Began To Use My Imagination To Believe A New Life Was Possible
In a hotel in Orlando on Lake Buena Vista, I was interviewed by Robin Leach, host of the popular TV series, “Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous.” He interviewed several of us investors that had done exceptionally well in real estate.
But see? We cannot put any limits on our imagination! Only we can stop ourselves from achieving what might seem impossible!
A few years later, I was making sandwiches in my kitchen for our lunch. I had the TV on in the living room. I was shocked to hear my voice on TV! They sold the rights to the show to a real estate “guru” and they were showing the interviews again.
Just remember, what you create and share publicly, just may live on in cyberspace for forever!
My Life Changed Forever – Unexpected Changes
One unexpected surprising change I experienced, was a loss of privacy. People would email or call me and say, “Can we get together for coffee? I want to pick your brain about a new deal I’m considering in real estate.”
My first thoughts were, “They don’t even know me and presume I drink coffee and that I have time to just chit-chat with a stranger?” Why did these people think they had a right to contact me and “pick my brain?” What would be appealing about that for me?
They never stopped to consider that I had my own deals I was working on. It never occurred to them that they were being rude. In their mind, it just seemed like a great idea to “treat” me to a cup of coffee, pick my brain for real estate strategies, and have the potential to make thousands, if not tens of thousands of dollars. What in actuality was happening is that they expected a consultation over coffee for free!
These are the type of people that have no business trying to be a real estate investor. Would you want someone like this for a client? A business partner? They had no respect for me, my time, or their potential deal. They were in way over their heads.
I’ll never forget a local husband-and-wife truck-driving team. I lived in a pretty small agricultural community so most people knew what I did. They drove for Love’s Trucking (my husband drives big rig so I can’t remember but he may have referred them to me).
Anyway, we were getting ready for church on a quiet Sunday morning. Then, we hear this big truck stop out front. There on the road in front of our house was a big, shiny, black semi-truck with big red hearts on the door!
They stopped by my house on their way to Kansas to drop off their documentation and application for real estate funding! I had no idea they were stopping by or that they knew where I lived!
The Fork In The Road
After learning a great deal and working with some pretty famous people (at the time), my reality changed. Being in their inner circle, I saw some “behind the scenes” things from a lot of the “gurus” that I worked with that were downright appalling and shameful.
Even though I, personally, was growing and learning so much, I had to disassociate myself from these people. Most of my “friends” thought I was crazy! Why would I give up the travel, being with gurus, being part of that inner circle?
Yes, it’s true that there were many opportunities laid before me by networking with these people, but at what cost to myself? My reputation? My sense of right and wrong? Were they what I wanted to become? No, it was not for me. I felt the cost was just too high.
The happy part about this decision was that I would go on to make more money than I ever had before (over $30K per month) by keeping my integrity and working by myself.
Therefore, I was officially done making other people tons of money with no appreciation for what I brought to the table and no respect for those we were selling to.
An experienced blogger that I follow posted recently, “The ‘Push’ of what you don’t want will always lead you to other experiences,” Lesly Federici. Follow this link to read all of Lesly’s post, “The Push Got Me To Now.”
Taking the Road Less Traveled.
If you want to quickly learn new marketing and social media trends and discover what’s working and what isn’t, pay close attention to what your successful competitors are doing. I did this and I didn’t like what I found. They may have had the sales numbers on the books, but their methods were not ethical.
If I would have listened to my “friends,” they felt that what I had been doing (working with gurus, best-selling authors, writers and seminar junkies) was working well. What they didn’t see was that the only way it was working was for short-term and for money. Unlike me, they felt this was success. I felt it was a shallow life.
I made a huge decision. After 30-some years in real estate related careers, I was putting it all behind me to focus on what had always truly made me happy. My creative side. Creating whatever I wanted to whenever and wherever I wanted to just for the sheer joy of it! My business focus today is to uplift others and inspire them to use their creative gifts as God intended.
Today, I follow no one, I plot my own course. My journey is unique, as is yours. We each have control of our own destiny. Don’t look to others to tell you what you should focus on for a career .
This site is my way of giving back. You will find I promote very few things here unless I feel they are truly useful. I try to provide high value in comparison to what I might make in commissions. (I do have affiliate links sprinkled about where I can make a small portion of a sale).
‘The Sleeper has awakened.’ I have totally refocused my life and even though it’s considered ‘not a real job,’ I am focusing on my creative side — fine art photography, painting and writing. To hell with what others think! ~ Deborah A. Ten Brink
Today I saw a video shared by another blogging friend of mine, Erika Mohssen-Beyk. She is a Life Mastery Institute graduate and teaches about how to make real and lasting changes in your life so that you can redirect your energy to look within yourself for answers. She can help you make a transformation in your way of thinking so that your true desires for success and a happy life can be achieved.
Anyway, in this video featuring Bob Proctor, he speaks about “Weakness of Attention, Poverty of Imagination.” (Having the Will to Succeed: Episode 5). Remember the Neville Goddard quote at the top of this post? We are often the one that blocks our own success. This video touched me deeply. It made me think back to those days when I knew I needed to focus on my career again.
Looking back, I don’t believe I was weak in my attention per se, but I let day-to-day “busyness” distract me so that my dreams were not clear to me nor a priority. My attention was focused very short term.
But, I was consumed and overwhelmed trying to focus on still healing from the loss of my husband, dealing with teenagers and a new marriage.
We all have duties and responsibilities each day, but if you pay attention, if you focus inward, you will find your own path to true happiness.
I have a very vivid imagination! I always have. But at that time in my life, I was not taking the time to meditate, focus and create the life I really wanted for me and my family.
We will not get what we want if we haven’t defined what that is and if we don’t believe that we can have that life we truly desire.
Choose The Path You Truly Feel Will Bring You Joy And Happiness.
The words of Dr. Wayne Dyer sum it all up best:
It may not make any sense to anyone around you, and might even appear to be preposterous to you as well, but just know that in the end you will not be disappointed. In fact, whoever and whatever you need will eventually appear in their unforeseen Divine perfection. Even if nothing seems to be going right and it all looks like doom and gloom, stay with your excitement. Declare yourself to be in a state of faith and trust, meditate on your vision, and the support will ultimately be forthcoming. The reason that it serves your inner excitement is because in those moments, known only to you, you are in alignment with who you truly are.
Wishing you unlimited happiness and success,
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